Hi.
I’m a kid - a kid just like most kids.
I’m a kid that has some important questions for some grown-ups.
Will you help
me with answers to my questions? Can I talk to you?
I’m two years old and jumping for joy. Lot’s of energy all the time. Sometimes I’m dramatic and
emotional and mom and
dad say “calm down”. But I’m full of
life.
So how do I calm down with all that energy?
Which way am I supposed to be?
Good and
quiet or full
of life, playing,
learning and
having fun which is how I learn the best way. Grandma
keeps encouraging me to dance and have fun. And we
having fun which is how I learn the best way. Grandma
keeps encouraging me to dance and have fun. And we
do lots of that in a whole lot of ways.
I’m confused. One day this way, next day that way.
Am I learning … how not to feel?
Am I learning … how not to be emotional?
Is this what you want me to learn?
I just want to get it right … so which way is it? How am I supposed to be?
I
feel like I am bad. How can something that
makes me feel so good be bad to them?
What do I do with all this energy?
Whose
gonna teach me
instead of telling
me I’m doing things wrong?
Grandma says I’m feeling frustrated. I’m starting
to learn words to describe what I am feeling and
I can say it to mom instead of acting out. I’m
sorry, I don’t mean to be too emotional and upset
everyone.
to learn words to describe what I am feeling and
I can say it to mom instead of acting out. I’m
sorry, I don’t mean to be too emotional and upset
everyone.
Hello Little One.
I’m Jane. Good questions! I‘m a
retired
teacher and children
taught me what
I’ve learned. Here are some answers for you that your parents may want to hear too.
Most moms and dads are trying to do the right thing
but they’ve been raised to think kids
should be calm,
just like their parents taught them. Often, they
just like their parents taught them. Often, they
believe
kids shouldn’t disturb people - like at school or in stores. You’re right,
you’re full of life and life wants
to inspire you,
excite you, flood
you with energy to grow you. You get your greatest learning through playing.
Parents
don’t realize they’re hampering your natural excitement
about learning, and confusing you, when they punish you without explaining and
showing you another way. When they
explain to you what you’re feeling,
and show you behavior that works better,
you’ll understand. This will give a way to talk rather than scream and act out.
Why do
Mommy and Daddy tell me “no” all the
time? “Don’t jump on the couch.” “Don’t play
time? “Don’t jump on the couch.” “Don’t play
with your food.”
Little One, if they would say to you, “Jumping on the
couch is hurting the couch. Let’s find another place
to jump instead”, then you’d understand how they
feel and have another way to get your jumping
energy out there. You’d feel respected, and next
time you’d respect them, and remember to not jump
on the couch.
couch is hurting the couch. Let’s find another place
to jump instead”, then you’d understand how they
feel and have another way to get your jumping
energy out there. You’d feel respected, and next
time you’d respect them, and remember to not jump
on the couch.
I think a part of me already knows it. I just need people to guide my actions. Thanks for
listening.
When we understand
how we feel
and we understand how the other person feels then we can do what feels good for all. That
is getting along. We all need that.
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